Wednesday Wisdom
Wednesday Wisdom: WORTH- Speak Your Truth, Know Your Worth, Mind Your Bridle!
Good Day, Leaders!
When conflict shows up, does your self-worth speak for you—or does your discomfort take the lead?
“When three people call you an ass, put on your bridle.”
— Spanish Proverb
I laughed when I first read this proverb! And yes, a few familiar faces came to mind.
But then I paused…
What happens when the person who needs to reflect is ME?
Now THAT is where the wisdom begins!
As we move deeper into October’s theme of WORTH, building upon September’s foundation of TRUST, let’s explore an uncomfortable truth:
How we navigate conflict often reveals how we value ourselves, trust our voices, and respect the perspectives of others.
Some of us confront conflict directly. Others avoid it, change the subject, use humor to deflect, quietly accommodate while resentment grows, or express frustration indirectly.
Sound familiar?
Here’s the thing, Leaders:
Conflict itself does not diminish our worth. However, how we choose to engage in conflict can strengthen—or strain—our relationships, credibility, and trust.
From a coaching perspective, self-awareness, emotional regulation, active listening, and personal accountability create opportunities to transform conflict into meaningful dialogue.
Being assertive does not require being aggressive. Being compassionate does not require abandoning your boundaries. And being accountable does not mean surrendering your dignity.
Your worth is not determined by winning the argument. It is reflected in your willingness to show up authentically, respectfully, and courageously.
Pause. Breathe. Reflect.
Take a slow breath in… and gently exhale.
Consider these questions:
What role do I typically assume when conflict arises, and what might that reveal about me?
How do my assumptions, emotions, and communication patterns influence the trust I build with others?
What would change if I approached difficult conversations with curiosity rather than defensiveness?
How might honoring both my worth and another person’s dignity transform the outcome?
Leaders:
Bring these questions to your teams:
Create space for honest dialogue, psychological safety, and shared accountability.
As fourth-quarter pressures intensify, economic uncertainty persists, and the holiday season approaches, remember:
We cannot always control the conflict around us, but we can become more intentional about how we respond.
And if three people offer similar feedback… perhaps it’s time to check that bridle!
Remember:
You don’t have to win every conflict to lead with confidence; sometimes the greatest victory is the awareness you gain about yourself.
Know your WORTH. Trust your VOICE. Own your IMPACT.
Be you, but better—and watch what happens!
You got this!
Coach Tavia, PCC, MEd, MAT
References & Further Reading
Center for Creative Leadership (CCL)
1. Developing Relationship-Building Skills in the Workplace: A Leader’s Guide (2026)Explores how trust, active listening, constructive disagreement, and meaningful feedback strengthen leadership relationships.https://www.ccl.org/articles/leading-effectively-articles/building-relationship-skills/
2. 6 Tips for Leading Through Conflict in the Workplace (2023)Offers practical strategies for reflective thinking, emotional regulation, accountability, and collaborative conflict resolution.https://www.ccl.org/articles/leading-effectively-articles/calm-conflict-in-the-workplace/
3. Ask the Expert: Challenging Conversations (2024)Highlights curiosity, empathy, and respecting different perspectives when navigating emotionally charged conversations.https://www.ccl.org/articles/leading-effectively-articles/how-to-approach-challenging-conversations/
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Tavia Robinson
EMPOWER COACHING & CONSULTING, LLC
732.743.5012
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